How I Was Able To Finally Lose Weight By Changing My Mindset

Have you ever found yourself trying to find an easier way to do something?

Maybe you want to lose 20 pounds, or maybe you want to create your own course or coaching program… but you don’t want to do it the hard way. 

Ultimately, doing things the “hard way” may not be as hard as you think, and sometimes just might be the right way to reach the goal you have in mind. 

Your mindset plays a role in every aspect of your personal and business life. 

It is possible that some of the struggles you’re facing each day are simply because you assume it will be too difficult, or that it will take too long.


In this video, I am going to cover:

  • How a simulated alternative seems to promise success but often provides more setback and failure
  • How the “hard way” is not as hard as you think if you just get started
  • AND… why doing things the hard way is often the fastest way to success!

How I lost 20 pounds in under five months by changing my mindset. That’s what we’re going to cover in today’s video. And as well, don’t forget to subscribe if you like watching videos from me.

Hey everybody, Dan Henry here and, in today’s video, I’m going to show you how I was finally able to lose weight after years of struggling by simply changing the way I think. Now, before you think this video is going to be all, woo-woo. You know I’m not a woo-woo person and I promise you there’s massive practicality in what I’m about to show you.

So here’s the thing. If you’ve ever struggled to lose weight, if you’ve ever tried diet after diet, and you thought these just aren’t working for me, it’s likely because you’re trying to do what I like to call a simulated alternative. So what does that mean? It means that in life, there are many things that always work. They always work, but it’s the hard way. Then the market, companies, and marketing companies and sales agencies and brands, know that most people don’t want to do it the hard way. So they create products and services that are simulated alternatives to the hard way.

One example of this is the diet and weight loss industry. So I know this because I have lived it and I know a lot of people who are professional fighters, professional bodybuilders, et cetera, et cetera. One of the things that I see a ton of these guys do, these guys and gals do to lose weight in a certain amount of time is they count their calories, right? I remember I was watching a video on Connor McGregor, I believe it was Connor. Mcgregor’s nutrition coach. He was talking about how they really dial in the calories for their fighters’ weight loss. They’ll say, well, we’ll start with a 400 calorie deficit and then we might bump it to five or we might back it off. We’re talking about a hundred calories where they’re literally scientifically trying to adjust by such a small margin of a hundred calories, a hundred calories is an apple, okay? So thought about this, right? I was like, these guys always make weight because they have to make weight for their fights. If you have a championship fight at 155 pounds and you come in weighing 157, guess what? Even if you win that fight, you don’t get the belt. You don’t get it. So it’s extremely important that these fighters and these bodybuilders, they, they weigh that certain amount. I’m not saying every fighter, every bodybuilder everybody counts their calories. What I am saying is at least from my experience, a vast majority do, especially at a high level or they have nutrition coaches that do it for them.

So I went around, I bought some different programs and I found that a lot of the programs that I bought that got really good results were based on calorie counting. What that means is that you have to literally weigh your food. It’s so specific that if you’re going to cook a piece of chicken, you got to weigh the chicken beforehand, then cook it. So you know, the true weight. So that you know exactly how many calories it is, you know exactly. You only eat from restaurants that have their nutrition information publicly listed, or that are listed in my fitness pal and your little, my fitness pal app. Literally, you have to go to this extreme level of detail to know exactly how many calories you’re consuming, or at least that’s what I thought. What I began to realize was simple, the human body acts in a certain way. It has a number of calories that it requires to function and that amount of calories is based on a lot of things. I’m not going to get into crazy weight loss stuff, because this isn’t about weight loss. This is about mindset. What I’m saying is that based on your weight and your bone structure and whatever, how much you weigh your body physiology, there is a number of calories every day that is called maintenance. That is one number. If you eat more calories than that, you gain weight. If you eat fewer calories, you lose weight. If you eat those exact calories, you stay the same way. That’s how the human body works. Now it does get a little bit more complicated with how much protein you eat and the different types of calories. If you have certain performance goals or your activity levels, but ultimately if you know how many calories you’re consuming and you subtract say 400 from that, and you’re able to be in, what’s called a caloric deficit, your body is going to lose weight.

That’s just the way the human body works, diets and fad diets, what those are designed to do by the sales and marketing companies is they say to themselves, okay, the average person is not willing to count their calories. They’re not willing to be diligent. They’re not willing to do what’s hard, weigh their food, refuse to eat at restaurants that don’t publish their calories. They’re not going to do it. Most people are not 95% of people, 99% of people are not going to do it. 1% of people are going to have the diligence and the mindset and the willpower to actually do that. For those people, those people will lose weight because at the end of the day, if you actually did do that, you would lose weight. Unless you had some sort of weird disease or thyroid issue if you know how many calories you’re eating and you maintain a deficit, you’re going to lose weight period.

Okay. But 99% of people won’t do that. So these companies, they make these diets like the Atkins diet and this an’ that. All these different diets to simulate the result of counting your calories. For instance, intermittent fasting, and I do intermittent fasting. That simulates counting calories because what it does is, you don’t eat all day and then you eat at the end of the day so you consume fewer calories. When you eat certain diets, those diets are designed around eating foods that are fewer calories. Everything is designed to simulate, it’s to create an easy way to simulate what happens when you do it the hard way, ’cause the hard way works100% of the time. The simulated or the easy way works some of the time. And that’s why people, some people get results with a diet and some people don’t just because you’re guessing, it’s an educated guess, but you are guessing, right?

If you follow a diet or a fasting schedule or what have you, that kind of maybe gets you in the ballpark, then maybe you’ll lose weight. But some people, maybe they eat one extra, this or one extra that and boom. Now all of a sudden they’re at maintenance or now that there are sitting above their maintenance calories. That’s why diets work for some people, not for others, because some people simply follow it closer than others. Ultimately you just don’t know how many calories you’re consuming.

Think about it this way. If I said to you, don’t check your bank account balance. Just kind of think about it and guess go out. Don’t look at what your paycheck is. Don’t look at what you spend at the store, just spend and just sorta guess, and hopefully, your bank account won’t go negative. You’d be like, that’s crazy. That’s nuts. I gotta check my bank account. I’ve got to know the number. So I know how much to spend, it’s the same thing with your calories. If you want to lose weight and you know how many calories you’re consuming, you keep track of it. You’re going to know. So if you say to yourself, okay, can I have this dessert? Can I have this extra slice of whatever? It’s simple, you look at how many calories you’ve consumed for the day and if you can eat it, eat it. If you don’t, you know, and then it becomes much easier not to eat something because it’s almost like your gamifying your weight loss.

When I realized this, I thought to myself, wait a minute, am I trying to lose weight the simulated way, the easy way, when all I really have to do is change my mindset and do it the hard way. So that’s what I did. I downloaded a calorie counter My Fitness Pal on my phone. If somebody asks me to go out to eat and I couldn’t count the calories, didn’t go. I only ate or got Uber eats from restaurants that had calorie information. I cooked my food or I weighed my food. If I went to eat rice, I looked at the package. I scanned it. I did the work. I said to myself, if I can just do this for two months, I can lose some weight. I’ll do the hard thing for two months and then I’ll go back to whatever. Well, as I did it, I realized something quite amazing. It actually wasn’t that hard.

It wasn’t that hard at all. It’s really not that hard to take an extra five minutes and count your calories. It’s not, you can say it is all day, but guess what? Ladies and gentlemen, it ain’t that hard. We used to live in caves. We used to have, if you wanted to contact somebody, you have to give somebody a handwritten note. They had to get on a horse and ride that horse, thousands of miles to deliver that message. We existed like that for thousands of years, but you can’t count your calories with an app that pretty much does it for you? Give me a break. So after a few weeks, not even a couple of months, I realized how easy it was and how what was hard was my emotional response to the anticipation that it would be hard. I thought it would be hard. Therefore I made it hard. When I actually did it, I realized it’s not that hard. It’s fine. Now I live my daily life and it’s been months and I live my daily life and I count all my calories every single day. I have lost a ton of weight and I’ve looked better than I ever have. For years I struggled to lose weight because I simply wasn’t willing to do it the hard way, the way that works. I always said “Oh, I don’t have time to count calories. Oh, I’ll do this diet, I’ll do that” and then when I just finally said, “I’ll do it the hard way. I’ll just do it.” I reframed how I thought about it. I realized, A: It was much easier than I thought, and B: I got what I wanted. I finally lost weight.

Let me tell you something. I’ve seen the comments, ladies and gentlemen. I see the comments on YouTube. I see the comments on my Facebook ads, “Dan you’re getting lean.” I remember I was hanging out with my good friend, Myron Golden, I was attending a mastermind that he held last week. He comes up to me, he looks me up and down. He says, “Dan, you’re really getting your stuff together, man. Your stuff’s looking tighter than a banjo string.” That was when I knew that I should have done this so much sooner. I should’ve just reframed my mind. I eat whatever I want. As long as I hit my calories and I get close to my body weight in protein, I’m fine. Ultimately it wasn’t the diet program that I bought or this, that, or that diet program or this food or that, or this nutrition concept, or this fad diet, what really made me lose weight was changing the way I thought, changing how I viewed it.

I was willing to do the hard thing to get what I wanted. When I finally did the hard thing, I realized it wasn’t that hard. What was hard was my anticipation that it would be hard. If you utilize this mindset in your life, you will find that things start to open up, doors start to open up and things start to happen. I’ve used this same line of thinking in my business. Everybody says, “Well, I don’t want to do that. That’s hard. Let me find a different way. I don’t, I don’t want to do a webinar. I don’t want to be on camera. I don’t want to learn how to sell. Oh, selling is icky. I don’t want to get on the phone and sell. Can I just do it another way? Can I just…” Okay, good. You go over there and you have your little mediocre little struggling company. I’m going to go over here and I’m just going to learn how to do it the hard way. Do I want to sell on the phone? Maybe, maybe not. I don’t care. I learned how to do it. Do I want to be on camera? Maybe, maybe not. It doesn’t matter, but I know if I do it, my company’s gonna grow. I accepted the hard way. When you accept the hard way, you instantly move ahead of your competitors because 99% of your competitors will not be willing to do it the hard way. When you embrace the hard way, you automatically have an edge.

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