Episode 67: How I Dealt With Someone Trying To Steal My House

What do you do when things go wrong?

You might know I’m in the process of selling my home. If you have ever moved, you know there’s a lot of work that goes into it, and it can be a lengthy process even when things go well.

I had everything worked out, and I was right in the middle of packing when I got a call from my realtor…

“Hey, we have an issue…”

Those are not the words you want to hear when you’re selling your home. What followed was something I never expected to hear, and my situation changed from selling my home and moving to dealing with a situation outside of my control.

So, what could I do?

Well, I realized I had two choices. I could freak out and focus on the negative or reframe my thinking and move forward.

Let me share how choosing to reframe my mind and move forward helped me deal with someone trying to steal my house.

In this episode, I am going to cover:

  • How to make the best of a negative situation
  • How changing your mindset can help you overcome obstacles
  • How to change your thinking and keep moving forward

In today’s episode, I’m going to be talking about how to deal when everything goes wrong. I’m going to tell you a story that just happened to me. Someone tried to steal my house. So I’ll tell you what that means here in just a second.

Hey everybody, so interesting story today. As you all know, I’m selling my house, and I got it under contract. We had a buyer, you know, make an offer, and everything was good, you know, cash offer, all that. So I started packing up, I hired movers, I threw away a bunch of stuff. Like I made all these preparations. And you know, I’m going on a trip. I have to go to The Bahamas for a millionaire cruise event. And then I’m going over to Puerto Rico just to check it out, see if I like it because, you know, not so much a fan of US taxes anymore. And you know, you only pay 4% over there if you do act 21 and 22. That’s a conversation for another time. But the point is, is, you know, I had a plan and, you know, everything was syncing up.

I was looking for a new home; I was gonna put an offer in on a new home. Obviously not going to pay cash because, you know, money is so cheap right now. So everything was lined up. Everything was synced, and it was a lot of work to get everything packed up and, you know, find a home that I can put an offer in. It’ll close after mine closes, yadda yadda, yadda, yadda really put myself out. Plus, we had an offer come in right after the offer that we accepted, and they were like, Oh, you know, we’re ready to go, we can’t believe we missed it, yadda, yadda. So, you know, we go through, we go through an inspection, everything’s good. All of a sudden, I get a call from my realtor, and she’s like, Hey, we have an issue.

I said, okay, what’s the issue? And I’m in the middle of packing. My whole house is just torn apart, you know? And she says, well, the check that the buyer sent to title for escrow bounced, like it bounced and like, Oh, okay. And that’s illegal as far as I know. Or at least it’s really bad. And so apparently the buyer says, okay, well we’re gonna wire money, you know, we’ll just wire it. It’ll be fine. So she was supposed to wire $50,000. She wires $50, $50. Oh, I’m sorry, I clicked the wrong thing on my phone. Well, that was four days ago. Still no money. Oh, I’m just going to wire the full 2.3 million. Oh, no, I’m going to wire a hundred thousand. Nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing. And we’re like, okay, so now we are in default, the buyers in default.

And I’m pretty sure this is some sort of scam because as we start looking and I don’t want to go into too much detail, because maybe some of the things we found were not accurate or not the same person or whatever, but we found some very disturbing things online that definitely point…

You know, we look up the person’s home, and it’s this modest, like maybe $150,000 home. And it just doesn’t make sense. Like why would somebody that owns a $150,000 home, you know, put an offer in on a $2.3 million home. And they just bought that $150K home. It doesn’t make sense, right? And that home was in foreclosure last year and got out of it. So none of this is looking good, and I’m trying to stay positive. I’m hoping maybe it’s a mistake, and they’re just having banking issues, but 99% chance there’s…

And I don’t get the scam. I don’t know what the scam is. Like, I’m trying to think, why would somebody do that? The only thing I can think of is that because they know that I’m leaving to go on a trip, and maybe this is some sort of really dumb way to stake out a house, but what they don’t know is I have somebody staying at my house while I’m gone that’s armed. So they’ll be in for a rude awakening if they try to break in. But, you know, so the point is the end result here is that everything has gone wrong, and here’s why.

Now I have to put the home back on the market unless miraculously, they pull through, and I lost a buyer because the other buyer that wanted to make an offer already bought another home. I can’t show it for at least a week ’cause I’m literally in the middle of packing because we have an escrow dispute. It makes things kind of weird with relisting. Trying to figure that out and, you know, cross all of our I’s and cross all of our T’s and dot our I’s, but I’m leaving on this trip. I can’t make an offer on another home because I am going to do financing. And I mean, I can afford to buy two homes, but I don’t want to get into a situation where I don’t get the loan approved in time. Because down here in the St Pete market, everybody’s buying cash, everybody. And so if you come in with a financing offer and somebody else comes in with a cash offer, well, you’re not going to get the home.

And I refuse to pay cash for a home. I’m sorry. Like, I can literally take the cash I would pay for a home, pay 3% on that for the home, and then put that cash into something that pays like 16% per year. Why on earth would I ever buy a home cash? It makes zero sense. So that’s what I’m dealing with.

Now, here’s the thing. Everything’s going wrong. I literally don’t have a place to live. There’s nothing, hardly anything for sale in the St. Pete market. The market’s crazy. Literally, my home will be completely empty. It’ll all be in storage. When I get back from Puerto Rico, I will be coming home to an empty home with no buyer with no new homes. So this is a bad situation, right? But here’s the thing we used to live in caves.

We used to have to hunt for food. It’s really not that big of a deal. When you really look at it, I can have one desk I can pop up. I can literally, you know, just do my thing. I can spend most of the time at the office, whatever. Like I’ll get through it. I will get another buyer. It’s a hot market. I’ll find a new place. It will be fine. And a lot of people would flip out. My realtor is flipping out. This woman literally looks like she is about to throw herself off of a bridge. She is flipping her lid, and I get it. It’s, I mean, she’s got a fatty six-figure commission that she missed out on. I mean, we’re already gonna, if this doesn’t go through, I’ve already contacted my lawyer. I’ve already sent over documentation.

We found a document when we got proof of funds. I mean, I hope this is a mistake, but you know, one of the things that we got was proof of funds was literally an extra zero in between or an extra digit in between commas. There was four instead of three. So it looks forged. Is it forged? Was it some sort of computer mistake? Maybe. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Absolutely. But it does not look good at this point. It looks like somebody is trying to literally defraud. I don’t get that. I don’t get the scam. Honestly, I don’t understand what their end game is or if they’re just crazy, or hopefully, they’re just really important, and I feel like the rules don’t apply to them, and they can just be like, Oh, you’ll get your money when you get it.

I can understand that ’cause I know a lot of rich people, and a lot of rich people are like that, unfortunately. But hopefully, it goes through, but if it doesn’t, we’ve already got a lawsuit already in the works. Like my lawyer’s like ready to go. We’re just waiting to see what happens. By the time you hear this episode, I’ll probably have already figured it out. So I’ll give you an update.

But the thing is, when things go wrong like this, the only thing you can do is to move forward. Do the best you can say, okay, that’s the situation, what do we do now? How do we move forward now? Because any other action, any other reaction is nonproductive to your benefit, period. I mean, you can freak out about it, and don’t get me wrong. I freaked out for five minutes. I was like what the dah dah dah! Then I was like, well, there’s nothing I can do about it. I just have to move forward, sell the house, dah, dah, dah.

Again, imagine you were living in a cave, and you went out, and there were no tigers or bears or whatever they ate back then, to kill, and it’s like a week, two weeks. And you’re like, Oh my gosh, I’m so hungry. And then you find one, and then you have to kill it with your bare hands. And then you’re like, Oh my gosh. There’s no therapist to help me deal with the fact that I killed an animal with my bare hands and survived. And you know, it like, that’s way worse. So you know, I try to remember the caveman theory, right? We used to be cavemen.

So whatever you’re complaining about right now probably isn’t that bad. Just deal with it. You know? So when everything goes wrong, and I’ll end the episode with this, you have to remember that if everything went right and you succeeded, well, you didn’t really do anything. You were handed life on a silver platter. And that rarely happens. The people that I respect are the people that make things happen when things don’t go correctly. When things don’t go according to plan, because the thing about it is, is life never goes according to plan. And when you give up because things don’t go according to plan, well, I mean, you get what you put in. And the thing about it is that we are not defined by how we react and how we succeed in times of triumph when things are easy. We’re defined by how we react in times of struggle.

And if you really want to know somebody on a human level, it’s when things are all going wrong and how they deal with that situation that shows their true potential. Not when everything’s going right. Anybody can succeed when everything’s going right. It’s when things are going wrong that you’re tested. And so, to me, I view it as a game. To me, I’m like, all right, everything’s going wrong. Cool. I’m in expert mode, man. I’m in the final. I’m at the boss mode at the end of this level. Like, let’s go, you know? So I view it like that.

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