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All right. So today’s question comes from dirtydata_official, “Three tips for being an all-star speaker.” I would not consider myself a speaker in the sense that that is the only and main thing that I do. It is a part of what I do. I do it a lot, and it’s made me a ton of money, but I’m a very specific type of speaker. When I speak, I generally am selling something. I’m speaking at an event and, or speaking at my own event. So keep in mind that I’m not motivational. I could do motivational speaking might be fun, but in general, I don’t do motivational speaking. I would love to do motivational speaking. And if anybody would like to invite me to a big, huge event where I can do some motivational speaking, I might just say yes, just to give it a crack. But generally, I speak to sell, and I’ve become very good at that best day I ever had was $1,020,000 from the stage. That was a good day. So I assume you’re asking me this question because you know some of that, so I will give you the best answers I can, but you know, there are probably some people out there that can answer this question better than I, but here are Dan Henry’s three tips to being an all-star speaker.
Number one, decide what type of speaker you want to be because that heavily dictates all the other stuff, right? If you want to be a motivational speaker, then that’s a completely different type of thing than being a sales speaker. If you want to be a corporate trainer, that’s a completely different type of speaker than the other thing. If you want to be a speaker that is like an activist kind of thing, where you lead causes, that’s a different type of thing. So the first thing is to understand what type of speaker you want to be so that you can study those types of speakers.
If you don’t know what type of speaker you want to be, you’re kind of p*ssing in the wind because how are you going to get good at speaking? If you don’t have an end goal, how do you know what books to read? Who are you going to study? How are you going to reverse engineer the process? If you don’t know what process it’s like saying, I want to be an athlete, but you don’t know if you want to be a baseball player, football player, ice skater. So how do you know what to do? You’ve got to pick.
So I would begin by asking yourself fundamentally at your heart and at your core, what type of speaker do you want to be and why? When you get on stage and you end, what do you want to happen? Do you want to motivate people? Do you want to change lives in high schools and colleges? Do you want to make sales? Do you want to train companies? Do what do you want to do? That’s the first tip, and then make sure that you take intentional action beyond that, to fulfill that and go, and not just a speaker.
Number two would be to make sure that you make speaking an integral part of your daily life. Yes, you can absolutely join masterminds, read books by speaker training, go to seminars 100%. And I’m not even going to include that in the three tips ’cause that’s obvious. If you’re not already doing that well then, so you want to make sure that you do that, but more importantly, you want to make it a daily practice in life.
So here’s an example. When I go to a bar, or I go to a party, and I’m conversing, I don’t just converse. I listen to what the other person is saying. I listen to what they’re looking to get out of the conversation. And then, I try to articulate myself in a way that provides value to that conversation. I don’t just go talk. I literally practice my speeches when I’m at a bar, and I don’t go to bars. I’m just using that as an example; I do go to bars, but very, very rarely. I more go to like conferences and stuff like that, and I could be at a restaurant. I could be at a bar. I could be at a conference. I could be at a wherever.
I could be talking with a girlfriend. I mean, it could be anything. And if there’s a reason to say something profound, I am practicing saying that thing, articulating that thing well, and making it as profound as it can be. I make it a part of my daily routine, my daily life. When I do coaching in my business, or when I give advice to friends, I practice speaking. If I read a book, I love to go to my friend or my significant other and say, Hey, I read this thing in my book. I’d love to share it with you. And then I like to turn it into a speech. I sometimes get the eye roll when I do this. But the point is is that you can practice things in your daily life.
One example I give is a friend of mine; his name’s Phil. And he’s an amazing drummer. He’s probably one of the best drummers I’ve ever met, but he’s always had some financial troubles. And so he rarely has a drum set, but he’s one of the best drummers I know. And I remember him coming and playing music with us when I’m in town. And literally, he’s like, just his chops are amazing. I’m like, dude, how do you keep up your chops? You don’t even have a drum set. He literally grabs, well, he always carries a thing. A drum drum sticks with him, but he’ll grab, you know, two things. Let’s just pretend these are drum sticks. And let’s say we’re chilling. And we’re just having a good time. Even if we’re at a restaurant, he’ll literally be like, Hey man, how ya doin? Cool. Yeah. And if he doesn’t have drum sticks, you won’t be able to have a conversation with this guy where he doesn’t start doing this.
And it’s so annoying because you’ll try to talk with him, and it’s like, dude, stop banging on stuff. He’s like, oh, sorry, man. I’m just practicing my paradiddles. You know, and as annoying as it is, I salute the guy because he literally makes his everyday life a constant drum practice session. That’s why he’s so good. So find a way to make your daily life a constant practice of speaking. And that goes with anything in life. So that’s the second tip.
The third tip, I would say, is to get into as many situations as you can, where you face your biggest fears and your most uncomfortable moments in speaking. So one of the biggest things when it comes to speaking is people are afraid to say the wrong thing. They’re afraid to give a bad speech. They’re afraid to do something wrong. They’re afraid to sound non-confident. They’re afraid to look stupid on stage. They’re afraid to blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And let me just tell you that’s going to happen. It’s happened to me. It’s happened to everybody. It’s going to happen. You might as well get through that as quickly as possible.
So my suggestion is to say yes, in the beginning to as many opportunities as you can, especially the little small ones, because I guess if you’re going to make a fool of yourself, you might as well make a fool of yourself in front of a crowd of 10 or 15 virtual or in-person rather than a crowd of thousands.
I will tell you one story, though. It’s about the worst speech I’ve ever made is a terrible speech, but it taught me something several years ago, I was asked to speak at the internet marketing party, which happened right before FHL, which is a big internet marketing conference. And I remember I was doing regular speaking at the time, but at the time, that was the biggest stage I had been asked to speak on. There were 600 people that they packed into this ultra lounge, and it was the night before the big event. And they asked me to come on stage and speak. And I made a huge, huge error because a lot of very prominent people had spoken at this, you know, like big, like Tai Lopez and all these guys. And I wanted to be the best possible speaker.
And so I got this cocky attitude, and I was like, I’m going to crush everybody, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And so I studied everybody’s speeches, and I looked at their speeches, and I noticed they weren’t really giving speeches. They were just kind of getting them up on stage and just telling cool stuff that they did in their business. And what I didn’t realize at the time was that that’s actually what that crowd liked. Even though it didn’t sound polished, it didn’t sound smooth. It didn’t sound like a big and because at the time, I thought being a great speaker was all about this. And because that event that was happening the next day was all about this. Everybody getting on stage was this, I thought, okay, I’m going to try to go against what I normally do. And ’cause what I normally do is I just go, I just talk. I don’t really prepare; I just sort of get up there with a vague idea. I feed off the crowd, and I just go, and I teach something awesome. I don’t tell a ton of crazy stories. I don’t make it a big hoopla, and I just kind of go from my heart, and then it ends up being very, very entertaining, and people love it.
But at that time, I got to in my head, and I tried to overdo it and make it this big thing. And when I got up on stage, I gave this horrific speech where it came off like all I was doing was talking about myself, everything was this narrative story, and I didn’t really share a ton of concrete value. And at the time, I didn’t realize that. At the time, I thought it was great. But then, when I like calmed down, I realized that I had got so far in my own head that I went against the very nature of what makes me, me, and what people relate with. And I tried to be somebody that I wasn’t. And when I did that, it ended up being the worst speech I ever made, like ever.
Since then, I’ve made amazing speeches that I’ve gotten amazing feedback on, or I’m not going to say they were amazing. People told me they were amazing. And I appreciate that, but I’m saying I got much more amazing feedback from those speeches than I did from that one because I allowed myself to be me and not get in my own head and just cultivate the different things that I learned from being a speaker and going out and practicing, speaking and becoming better at speaking from the heart, rather than trying to implement something, go against the grain of myself and be somebody, be a speaker, you know, instead of taking from different speakers and creating my own style, trying to copy somebody else’s style, trying to say this speaker is good. So I’m going to try to be this person when I’m not that person. And I gave that horrifying speech, and I’ll probably never get invited back. And if I ever did, my number one goal would be to absolutely undo that and make up for that. But I probably won’t get invited back.
But the point is, it doesn’t matter. I learned something valuable from that is to not get into inside my own head. And so the point I’m trying to make is you have to go out, and you have to give bad speeches so that you learn how not to give bad speeches. You can’t learn how to not give a bad speech without giving a bad speech. So that is, and I’m not saying it’s going to be terrible. I’m saying that it’s not going to be as good as it will a couple of years from that point when you’ve really refined it.
Those are my three tips to being an all-star speaker; honorable mentions would be to consume a lot of speaking, listen to a lot of speakers that you love. Don’t try to copy; just absorb, and it will come out of you. It’s sorta like when you hear a band, and you’re like, wow, I can hear a little Metallica in there. I can hear a little Pentara in there. I can hear a little Tool in there, but it’s not like they sound just like them. You just could hear that there was some influence rather than straight-up trying to copy. So those are my tips.
I hope they’re helpful. I hope that they help you in your journey to speaking storytelling. If you have a question for me and you’d like to leave it in the comments, I will take a look and see if I can make a video out of it. Don’t forget to subscribe, smash the like button, and I’ll see you in the next one.